The power of shifting perspective [Archive post] challenge your inner status quo, and cultivate these shifts into a truer version of you. We can prevent, prune and rewire the outdated patterns, bringing empowerment and choice.
This is a very timely piece of writing for me. After years of depressive episodes and a diagnosis of bipolar, I have recently, thanks to sessions with a psychotherapist, discovered the truth of these episodes. They have nothing to do with the bipolar MISdiagnosis. What a revelation!
That’s such a revelation Sandie. There is so much we can learn about ourselves to reduce our more challenging thoughts and feelings, in psychotherapy and other ways too. The work is worth it! Thanks for sharing.
Thank you for being so honest on the page. I totally hear your message about how our own unconscious bias can limit our own quality of life. We are often our worst enemy!
Ah those bonds we form between friends are so important in our lives and can truly make the difference between being sad and being happy. I have had a recent shift in mood and perhaps perspective too. Last year I started off out of work, a contract had ended and I was looking for something else, but also giving myself a rest after having battled cancer with very little time off. In the April I both started my Substack and went back to my last employer in a different role doing their social media which was only 10 hours a week. For a while it made perfect sense and it was good to be working again - and I was loving discovering Substack even though it was scary to finally ‘come out’ as a writer. As the year moved on I became less satisfied with my situation. My daughter turned 19 and I lost all benefits so the 10 hours a week wasn’t cutting it and I worried about how I would pay the bills. I also was starting to feel very weighed down by the work - well not really the work itself but it’s content as the charity I was working for was a bereavement charity and creating posts and sharing stories around grief every day was adding sadness to my life that I didn’t need. Whilst they wanted me to stay on when the contract ended at the end of December, I decided not to. I wanted to be rid of all the grief every day (I was widowed 19.5 years ago and I’ve had enough!) and decided to follow my own path again. Someone had given me the idea to start my own social media business and help local writers who hated or didn’t understand doing their own. I can’t tell you the weight that lifted. I feel totally like a new person this year and it’s so exciting setting up a new business that is positive. I already have 2 clients and they are awesome writers. Yes I am still concerned about money, but I had a little cushion and am hoping to have enough coming in before that runs out.
Sorry for the long message - but it’s so true how it’s your perspective that needs to change to feel happy and in your element. I still have limited funds, but I am doing something I love and believe in. And it’s the perfect fit alongside my own writing too 💚
That's really fantastic that you've found something else fulfilling. You've dedicated so much to helping others with grief, but it was time for something new! Your small business is important work too.
I know it's hard when so many parts of our life create pressure at once. I too struggle with income since getting long covid and having to stop counselling. It also effected my jewellery business significantly, so I get it! And my daughter is about to turn 19.
I hope to get my substack to a stage where it will pay more bills to relieve the financial worry.
I find my daily gratitude practice (six things) also helps my perspective and keeps my mood up on any worrying days!
Good luck with it, I am so glad you've made this shift! ✨
Thank you Kate. Yes when child benefit goes, so does everything else related. I lost UC and WPA too. But it feels like I’m on the right path - and I really hope it does work out. I love that you make jewellery too - I know i feel better when I have a creative outlet. Let’s hope we can both make these passions work for us financially 💕
Such a beautiful way to demonstrate how our mindset can be shifted and changed. What really speaks to me is the wonderful bonding and connection you described. I think we can often underestimate the power of relating to one another to shift us into caring social mentalities, opening us up to recieving care and warmth from ourselves and others - even if it's from a paining!
Absolutely Kirsty! And as you’ll know, it’s the repeated experience of a therapist that means you no harm with a compassionate attitude that an be so healing and freeing. Thanks for reading!
You’re welcome, it brought back the feeling of being in a space like that with others. It’s inspired me to be on the look out for a similar retreat. Thank you for sharing!
Have you changed your perspective, internal story or noticed a shift in your outlook? Do you feel you might be seeing things through an outdated lens?
This is a very timely piece of writing for me. After years of depressive episodes and a diagnosis of bipolar, I have recently, thanks to sessions with a psychotherapist, discovered the truth of these episodes. They have nothing to do with the bipolar MISdiagnosis. What a revelation!
That’s such a revelation Sandie. There is so much we can learn about ourselves to reduce our more challenging thoughts and feelings, in psychotherapy and other ways too. The work is worth it! Thanks for sharing.
Thank you for being so honest on the page. I totally hear your message about how our own unconscious bias can limit our own quality of life. We are often our worst enemy!
Yes absolutely. It's important that we are honest with ourselves or we will just stay stuck in the patterns. Thanks Rohini!
Ah those bonds we form between friends are so important in our lives and can truly make the difference between being sad and being happy. I have had a recent shift in mood and perhaps perspective too. Last year I started off out of work, a contract had ended and I was looking for something else, but also giving myself a rest after having battled cancer with very little time off. In the April I both started my Substack and went back to my last employer in a different role doing their social media which was only 10 hours a week. For a while it made perfect sense and it was good to be working again - and I was loving discovering Substack even though it was scary to finally ‘come out’ as a writer. As the year moved on I became less satisfied with my situation. My daughter turned 19 and I lost all benefits so the 10 hours a week wasn’t cutting it and I worried about how I would pay the bills. I also was starting to feel very weighed down by the work - well not really the work itself but it’s content as the charity I was working for was a bereavement charity and creating posts and sharing stories around grief every day was adding sadness to my life that I didn’t need. Whilst they wanted me to stay on when the contract ended at the end of December, I decided not to. I wanted to be rid of all the grief every day (I was widowed 19.5 years ago and I’ve had enough!) and decided to follow my own path again. Someone had given me the idea to start my own social media business and help local writers who hated or didn’t understand doing their own. I can’t tell you the weight that lifted. I feel totally like a new person this year and it’s so exciting setting up a new business that is positive. I already have 2 clients and they are awesome writers. Yes I am still concerned about money, but I had a little cushion and am hoping to have enough coming in before that runs out.
Sorry for the long message - but it’s so true how it’s your perspective that needs to change to feel happy and in your element. I still have limited funds, but I am doing something I love and believe in. And it’s the perfect fit alongside my own writing too 💚
That's really fantastic that you've found something else fulfilling. You've dedicated so much to helping others with grief, but it was time for something new! Your small business is important work too.
I know it's hard when so many parts of our life create pressure at once. I too struggle with income since getting long covid and having to stop counselling. It also effected my jewellery business significantly, so I get it! And my daughter is about to turn 19.
I hope to get my substack to a stage where it will pay more bills to relieve the financial worry.
I find my daily gratitude practice (six things) also helps my perspective and keeps my mood up on any worrying days!
Good luck with it, I am so glad you've made this shift! ✨
Thank you Kate. Yes when child benefit goes, so does everything else related. I lost UC and WPA too. But it feels like I’m on the right path - and I really hope it does work out. I love that you make jewellery too - I know i feel better when I have a creative outlet. Let’s hope we can both make these passions work for us financially 💕
Absolutely, I'm sure we can and will!
Such a beautiful way to demonstrate how our mindset can be shifted and changed. What really speaks to me is the wonderful bonding and connection you described. I think we can often underestimate the power of relating to one another to shift us into caring social mentalities, opening us up to recieving care and warmth from ourselves and others - even if it's from a paining!
Absolutely Kirsty! And as you’ll know, it’s the repeated experience of a therapist that means you no harm with a compassionate attitude that an be so healing and freeing. Thanks for reading!
You’re welcome, it brought back the feeling of being in a space like that with others. It’s inspired me to be on the look out for a similar retreat. Thank you for sharing!
Yes I miss it. That will be so replenishing 🧡
Is that black and white image one of those that change depending on perspective? 💚
Hi Sheila, yes it is, have you seen the shift yet? Keep looking if not!
I finally saw it! I could only see the young woman, hopefully that means I’m a positive person or a youthful person hmm 🤔😆
You had the shift, that's great! And I love your interpretation of it! ✨