How to Heal a Broken Heart 💔

🌱🌷 "However long the night, the dawn will break." African proverb.

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Hi friends,

When I was seventeen, after nine glorious months with my first love, laughing together while music played, holding hands, wearing flowers in my hair, and loosing my virginity in the woods, Josh Bentley snogged my ‘friend’ Laura Partridge.

I was patched up by age nineteen, when Peter Oliver, tall, dark and handsome with dazzling green eyes had my heart. He then practically stalked me and made me look like the horrible one, because I had no idea how to deal with his unhealthy attachment. I can’t even talk about my feelings from the end of my marriage after twelve years together, Substack isn’t yet big enough.

I know you haven’t escaped this heartache either, unless your very lucky. 💔

Maybe you already know that can we can be proactive to heal our hearts, in a way that doesn’t involve two bottles of wine and a tub of ice cream. I wish I’d know more about how to help myself sooner.

We know from Louis Capaldi’s laments that heartbreak is one of the most painful experiences a person can endure. And it’s not just following romantic relationships, but also friendships, or unrequited love. The emotional pain can feel overwhelming.

Although we can’t flick a switch back; when we fall in love our brains alter to include the other within it, which is why it’s so painful as our psyche reorganises around the hole.

We experience a deep loss, even though no one died.