Hi friends,
Do you sometimes wonder why your life is so much worse than everyone else’s? That you should be xyz by now? That maybe everyone is right, you are pretty useless? That you might as well give up, since the world is set against you?
You might be seeing yourself and others through one or more of the cognitive distortions I outline below.
Having therapy throughout my psychotherapy training taught me that I could get caught up in seeing myself and others through a distorted lens without realising. A total eclipse of reality in favour of the unhelpful stories my patterned mind liked to come up with.
I found it common in my clients too, who also distorted their reality, sometimes because of what happened in the past, or inexplicably giving far too much weight to something of no real consequence. Ever worried what someone you haven’t seen for ten years thinks about you?
These stories feed low self worth, low mood and anxiety. I still need to check myself to make sure I see clearly.
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