🎧 Finding resilience in uncertainty. How can we build resilience to survive the hard things we experience and have our souls still sing?By creating a safe ground for ourselves, we can stand strong while lava shifts the sands around our feet, until we find our way forward.
As a woman suddenly thrust into caregiving overnight for my partner, I didn't have much time to think of anything, let alone have the bandwidth to know how I would survive all this. For me, it's understanding and accepting that these are our moments now. We can either wallow in the past and wish for something that is never coming back or step into our new future. We've decided to embrace the future, and it's made a huge difference in my mental and physical resilience. Thank you for such a beautifully written piece!
Thanks for this Shelly. Accepting what we can or can’t control is such a big thing. Often people do need to mourn what they lost, but we have to move into acceptance, then we can still thrive 💛
Resilience is difficult to teach or even to model. It is not about bragging, nor spotlighting oneself, it is about choosing to be. Waking up every day, choosing how to spend your hours (despite any illness or challenges) then reaching for the hand of someone who encourages you.
Sending you a ((hug)) even tho you may not need it.
Thanks Mara. I’m glad you found your voice. I saw a Frida Kahlo exhibition in London a few years ago, I never knew she suffered with chronic pain until then. She is such an inspiration 💛
You are a very gifted writer and you have such a soothing, enjoyable voice. Great job!! As a retired counselor who still does some coaching, I loved this.
I really needed to read this today at a time when my resilience needs to be the strongest it’s ever been. It’s hard not to be knocked over by the waves, thank you for the gentle suggestions in here 🙏🏼
I’m sorry to read this Helen, try the simple tools section for more. I always loved the quote ‘we cannot direct the wind, but we can adjust the sails.’ 💛
Oh yes that is lovely. It reminds me of a quote from Tara Brach that I often think of too: “When we trust that we are the ocean, we are not afraid of the waves.” ❤️
I'm thinking of all the readers of Carer Mentor who can benefit from it!
Lots of Substack synchronicity - check out my article today, plus a post by Chris Anselmo, and the post by MNL, you'll see them in my notes from today ;-) I think you'll see different threads that can tie to your article.
Gosh I so relate to this. I'm coming upon a difficult season in my life and I am trying really hard to make space for all the emotions and grounding because if not I'll just burn out again. I'm working on staying in the present. Thanks for the tools you provide here.
An uplifting and practical approach to building resilience. Kate, the suggestions are simple yet powerful. It reminds me that even in tough times, small steps can make a big difference.
Lovely, as ever, to read your words Kate. I have some pleasurable catching up to do on Substack as I’ve been busy having a lovely time on holiday and haven’t read a thing here! Xx
'Who knows what the wind will blow into our lives, dirt or butterflies, let's be ready for it all.' I love this so much I wrote it in my journal today, it's so true and beautiful. Thank you x
In hard times, what has helped me recover most is connecting with loved ones. A phone call with a friend or a visit with family always reminds me that I'm not alone and provides much-needed emotional support. Journaling has also been a powerful tool for me, allowing me to process my thoughts and feelings.
Thank you for always encouraging us to reflect and grow!!! Love from India.
What can you do today to strengthen your resilience?
What did you do to help you recover in hard times?
As a woman suddenly thrust into caregiving overnight for my partner, I didn't have much time to think of anything, let alone have the bandwidth to know how I would survive all this. For me, it's understanding and accepting that these are our moments now. We can either wallow in the past and wish for something that is never coming back or step into our new future. We've decided to embrace the future, and it's made a huge difference in my mental and physical resilience. Thank you for such a beautifully written piece!
Thanks for this Shelly. Accepting what we can or can’t control is such a big thing. Often people do need to mourn what they lost, but we have to move into acceptance, then we can still thrive 💛
So true! We have more power in deciding how to live and respond to adversity than we sometimes realize.
We cannot direct the wind but we can adjust the sails 🙏🏻
Love this!!!!
I'm not crazy about what's happened but realizing I have that power is a game changer. You've given me another topic idea for my podcast.
I bet Shelly, it’s important to own your emotions, whatever they are, and get support around you if needed/wanted 🙏🏻
Resilience is difficult to teach or even to model. It is not about bragging, nor spotlighting oneself, it is about choosing to be. Waking up every day, choosing how to spend your hours (despite any illness or challenges) then reaching for the hand of someone who encourages you.
Sending you a ((hug)) even tho you may not need it.
Thank you teyani, yes to all this! 🙏🏻
Beautiful! Love your voice. 🫶🏻
Thanks so much Elaine, it means a lot to me! 🙏🏻💛
When I found purpose by starting to write about my chronic pain I found strength. I write about it in this post from today about Frida Kahlo:
https://open.substack.com/pub/chronicpainchats/p/frida-kahlo-trailblazing-for-women?r=2u7q6o&utm_medium=ios
Thanks Mara. I’m glad you found your voice. I saw a Frida Kahlo exhibition in London a few years ago, I never knew she suffered with chronic pain until then. She is such an inspiration 💛
You are a very gifted writer and you have such a soothing, enjoyable voice. Great job!! As a retired counselor who still does some coaching, I loved this.
That means so much to me Susan, thank you! 🙏🏻☺️
I really needed to read this today at a time when my resilience needs to be the strongest it’s ever been. It’s hard not to be knocked over by the waves, thank you for the gentle suggestions in here 🙏🏼
I’m sorry to read this Helen, try the simple tools section for more. I always loved the quote ‘we cannot direct the wind, but we can adjust the sails.’ 💛
Oh yes that is lovely. It reminds me of a quote from Tara Brach that I often think of too: “When we trust that we are the ocean, we are not afraid of the waves.” ❤️
Oh I love it! 🥹
Great article, Kate! I need to find a good spot on my website to link to it.
That’s so kind Victoria, thank you! Kate
I'm thinking of all the readers of Carer Mentor who can benefit from it!
Lots of Substack synchronicity - check out my article today, plus a post by Chris Anselmo, and the post by MNL, you'll see them in my notes from today ;-) I think you'll see different threads that can tie to your article.
Gosh I so relate to this. I'm coming upon a difficult season in my life and I am trying really hard to make space for all the emotions and grounding because if not I'll just burn out again. I'm working on staying in the present. Thanks for the tools you provide here.
I hope they help you through your difficult patch. Try these simple tools too: https://lettersfromtherapy.substack.com/t/simple-tools
I’m just catching up after a short trip away. What a heartfelt post❤️.
thanks for reading Michelle, and for saying!
An uplifting and practical approach to building resilience. Kate, the suggestions are simple yet powerful. It reminds me that even in tough times, small steps can make a big difference.
Thanks for reading Mo! ☺️
This is so beautiful and heartfelt and wise. Thank you.
Thank you Bonnie! Thanks for reading ☺️✨
Lovely, as ever, to read your words Kate. I have some pleasurable catching up to do on Substack as I’ve been busy having a lovely time on holiday and haven’t read a thing here! Xx
Haha yes I saw some of your photos on Instagram, it looked amazing! 💛
'Who knows what the wind will blow into our lives, dirt or butterflies, let's be ready for it all.' I love this so much I wrote it in my journal today, it's so true and beautiful. Thank you x
Thank you Leanne, this means so much to me! 💛
In hard times, what has helped me recover most is connecting with loved ones. A phone call with a friend or a visit with family always reminds me that I'm not alone and provides much-needed emotional support. Journaling has also been a powerful tool for me, allowing me to process my thoughts and feelings.
Thank you for always encouraging us to reflect and grow!!! Love from India.
Working through these points now and very much needed to read this article. Thank you so much, Kate! 💙
Thanks Aurelia, I hope it’s helpful 🙏🏻